Brief post-chemo update

 This is more for me in the future than for any of you, but day of chemo: very tired. Took a four hour nap. Day after chemo: Felt totally normal. Second day after chemo: TIRED. I think I may have mistimed my meds (I wanted to go to bed early but I was supposed to be taking anti-nausea meds every 8 hours and I think there was a 10 hour window between pills and that didn't help me). Third day after chemo (today!) I feel fine! It's nice.

Worth nothing that the second, third and fourth days after chemo, I take steroids and anti-nausea pills on a regular schedule. So we'll see how I feel when I hit tomorrow and I don't have those supportive meds. 

First Chemo Treatment Accomplished

I had my first chemo treatment today, and it was pretty uneventful! There's a lot of waiting while they wait for labs to come back (to see how you're doing, to make sure you're healthy enough to receive treatment, to make sure you're not pregnant -- I take pregnancy tests ALL THE TIME now and it's extremely tedious). I also had a meeting with my medical oncologist, who is great, and her nurse, who is even more amazing and answers my many, many questions about the process via the online portal for the hospital. I ask a lot of questions.

In the infusion area, everyone works with a nurse, and each nurse is managing several patients. They're very busy, and they're very nice. They put you in a little bay with a comfortable chair (with heat and massage functions), a little television, a curtain to draw if you want more privacy, and there's a snack station nearby with jello and pudding and assorted cracker and granola bar-type snacks. They also have very small cans of Shasta, juice, and probably some other stuff. I only mention all of this because a lot of people asked me about the snacks so I know this is a thing that the people want to know!

My course of medication for the day was one drip with steroids and one kind of anti-nausea medication (sort of immediate-acting stuff) and then a drip with longer last anti-nausea medication, meant to carry me through a couple of days.

As an aside: In the chemo teach (in which a nurse talks you through the process and answers any questions you may have), it was made very clear to me that if I had a weird reaction to any medication at any time during the process, I should 1. say something 2. expect a whole bunch of people to run over. Can you guess why I'm mentioning this?

That's right! When they started the second IV with the longer lasting anti-nausea medication, I felt a tightness in my chest and it felt a little hard to breathe. So I mentioned it, and they stopped the feed and EVERYONE ran over while assuring me that there was nothing to worry about (I am upsettingly chill about this whole thing and that mood continued throughout this process). Ultimately they decided to handle the longer-term anti-nausea with pills I will be taking every 8 hours for the next few days, and an IV of a different anti-nausea medication at the end of the treatment. I was very, very happy that this didn't derail any of the rest of the day. 

The chemo meds did not cause any weird reactions for me. There were two different medications I received. The first was doxorubicin, nicknamed "the red devil" because it is red and apparently it SUCKS. It can cause mouth sores, so sometimes if you suck on ice while you're getting it, it helps. So I did that. It was fine. It comes in a large syringe, and a nurse pushes it over the course of about 15 minutes while checking for blood return (what this means is they stop the feed, see if they can pull blood back through the IV, and this indicates that the line is where it needs to be and the medication is making it safely into my bloodstream). The second medication I received was cyclophosphamide, and that was just a normal drip. It took about 30 minutes. No issues. I drank a small Shasta cola and hung out.

After all of that, I got an IV injection of some anti-nausea meds, and I got to leave! I had arrived at the hospital around 8:30 in the morning, and I was done around 1:30. It felt a little bit like being in a very weird spa. 

I was supposed to call my partner to come pick me up but it was nice out and I felt ok so I walked over to his house and then everyone got mad at me (just kidding but there was a small amount of outrage about this). Then I took a FOUR HOUR NAP. 

Anyway, I feel fine for now! I've taken my anti-nausea meds for the night, I'm going to go to bed soon, and we'll see how I feel tomorrow! For the next three days, I'll be taking anti-nausea meds on a schedule and steroids on a schedule, so I would imagine I'll be feeling pretty all right. After the first few days, we'll see. I'll keep you posted.

Countdown to Chemo

I start chemo on Wednesday, so this is the last normal night (where my day tomorrow will be a day that I am familiar with, vs a day where I start a treatment that historically is very hard on bodies). I hadn't considered how strange it would be to have this little countdown. Do I take advantage of the last normal night to have a drink? Do I do something special? These are things I hadn't really considered until a little earlier, and where I've landed is "drinking a non-alcoholic beer and watching a baking show on TV with the cats." This is a very normal night. It's nice. 

I have had a number of moments since my diagnosis where I've thought (and sometimes said out loud): I want to remember how nice this moment was, how normal this weekend was, how lovely it has been to spend this time with the people I love while I'm still feeling good and doing well. I don't want to take this for granted. I want to tuck this memory away so I can revisit it when things aren't going as well, to remember that I will have these moments again. 

I am sitting in a comfortable chair, the weather is perfect, and I am having a lovely evening in my home with my cats. I feel good. I'm grateful to be in a position to go through these treatments, and I'm feeling optimistic about my future. 

Bone Biopsy Results Are Back and They Are Good

Bone biopsy results came back clear! The cancer has not metastasized, and so we can begin chemo (and continue with the very aggressive treatment plan) with the hope of totally clearing it out. 

This is a solid start to the weekend.

I got a bone biopsy and it wasn't that bad

Yesterday, I had a bone biopsy. This meant light sedation (awake but very relaxed), no unclear liquids after midnight (black coffee is a clear liquid and I am so, so grateful for this), couldn't drive myself to or from the hospital, etc. The biggest challenge is not accidentally doing the normal things I would do out of habit (mostly: eating breakfast). 

I've had a number of regular biopsies, and I don't enjoy them because the numbing process is painful and unsettling, and then I'm sore for several days after. They're fine. I'm happy to get them done. They just aren't any fun. I expected the bone biopsy to be worse, because it's a bone biopsy, but actually it was a little easier! For one, they were able to use my port for the first time to do a blood draw and then set the IV for the medicine I'd be getting during the procedure. 

The port is awesome. It means I don't have to get stuck in my arm for any of that stuff. There's already an access point. This was the first time it was used, and the nurse walked me through everything she was doing so I'd know what to expect. It's very cool. It's a little bit like being stabbed in the chest by a LARGE pushpin when they put the needle in (not bad! just unsettling!), but in future visits, I'll have had time to put some numbing cream on it so I won't even feel that. It's taken more than a week for me to get used to the sensation of the port under my skin, but I'm finally feeling pretty normal about it and getting to see how it works was really cool.

The main things about the bone biopsy (they were trying to get a sample from a lesion on my spine) that the nurse and doctor mentioned was that I shouldn't feel anything (aside from movement. pain is not normal, movement and pressure are normal, as the other biopsy surgeon liked to repeat) but I might hear some weird stuff. "I might have to use a mallet to get the needle into the bone" and "there is a very small chance of spinal column injury but it's extremely unlikely" are not sentences anyone wants to hear, but it went very quickly (shockingly quickly, to the point where I was like "What, really?") and I didn't even really hear weird stuff. I was very relaxed, it didn't hurt at all, and I am feeling good today. My back was sore for the afternoon, but it was more like a muscle tightness than anything else. The biggest challenge was getting the original dressing removed and putting a band-aid over the spot by myself. It's very difficult to do when the spot is in the middle of your back and you are using a mirror as a guide! But I did it. 

The results should be back in a couple of days. The biggest concern is that they missed the lesion and just got regular bone, in which the results will be inconclusive. But everyone seemed confident that they'd have everything dialed in to get the samples needed. I'll update when I have more information!

A quick aside about work and cancer and "feeling normal"

As I mentioned in the first cancer post, I left my job in February, and I have been looking for a new one that will be interesting and challenging and fulfilling in the ways I know a job can be. I've found some good stuff, I've gotten pretty far in some interview processes, but I haven't landed anywhere. And that's ok. I've done a little contract work, I've done a tiny freelance project, and I've been actively looking, and interviewing, and working with outplacement coaches, and redoing my resume (so, so many iterations! so many!).

I'm on unemployment, which necessitates at least three work search activities each week. One of the questions they ask you as part of this process is "were you able to work every day this week?" and the answer so far has been "Yes." I don't anticipate that changing, even after treatments start. The work I do is primarily editorial, and can be done on a computer from anywhere. Part of me thinks it's strange and foolish to not just step away from the work stuff, to take a break from thinking about this uncertain future, but the rest of me wants to keep things as normal for myself as possible, for as long as possible, since there will be SO MUCH that is not normal.

There's a lot of mental tension around knowing things are going to be different but not knowing how they will be different, wanting to keep as many of my routines as I can, not knowing what I'll have to give up, etc. Even when I think I have a schedule, it can change if new information comes to light. There's so much uncertainty. 

After the MRI results came back, I spent a couple of days thinking about what my life might look like if my cancer had metastasized. It was an interesting exercise, and one I have encouraged my parents NOT to do, because why would you worry when there's not yet anything to worry about? We all handle things differently. What is interesting for me to consider is devastating for them. I don't think about these futures because I'm worried. I try them on for size. I check with myself to see how I feel about these possible paths, because maybe it'll help me prepare for news when it finally arrives. I ask myself, if I had five years, would I feel cheated? No. You can do a lot of things in five years. If I had less time, it would still be enough time. Any amount of time is enough. 

Most of the time, though, I consider that maybe I'll go through all of this and come out cancer-free, and then I'll have time and health, and my future will be just as much of a mystery as it is right now. And I don't want to put the work of being alive and navigating that unknown future on hold for the months of treatment ahead of me. And so, I continue to look for work and think about what I want to do with whatever amount of time I have.  

A bone biopsy is in my future

I've got a bone biopsy scheduled for next Tuesday morning! I'm very, very excited that they were able to get it scheduled so quickly. This does continue to push chemo back, but I will simply cope by eating spicy foods and ordering undercooked dishes and appreciating how everything tastes normal to me right now. 

I'll continue to put updates here, so if you message me and I am super tired of going into detail about what's going on (because I go into everything here on the blog!), I'll just direct you to the blog. That's why I'm doing the blog. Please. If you wonder how I'm doing or what's going on with my schedule, it's going to be here!